Something to think about...

Resentment

2004-10-23T07:53:00.000-07:00

Ah, a topic I know all too well. When you resent someone or hold a grudge against them, usually it’s for a pretty good reason. (Well at least you tend to think so) Despite justification the general consensus is you have to let bygones be bygones. You have to be the “bigger” person and move on. I’ve tried this tactic and it doesn’t seem to work.

If you’re forcing yourself to move on then it’s not because you’ve forgiven them but more for your own sanity. You try to convince yourself by saying one of the following:

“X” amount of time has passed, I guess it’s time to move on

I don’t want to deal with this forever so I should just let it go

I’m not going to give them the satisfaction of holding a grudge

I’m too good for this

Usually what happens in these circumstances is the feelings are suppressed for a short period of time. The old feelings will eventually resurface when you get reminded of your previous turmoil. At this point you find yourself back at square one.

Sure I’ve been resentful towards my family (my mother specifically) and I held on to that grudge for a very long time. I tried to force myself to move on and eventually realized in order to really move forward you have to forgive that individual. I know it’s hard to forgive someone who has wronged you. But believe me, when you do finally forgive them, a huge weight is lifted off of your shoulders and you soon realize that forgiveness is much better than resentment any day.

Relationships

2004-10-22T19:37:00.000-07:00

In the beginning of every relationship it seems both individuals are at the top of their game. They're romantic, understanding, they bend over backwards for the other, they try to look good for the other person, and they are more than willing to make adjustments. At what point in the relationship does this all go out the door? The more time we spend with our significant others and the more comfortable we feel with them, the less effort we make. Is it the fact that we've become lazy or do the gestures become less important? I guess it depends on who you ask.

50 facts about me....

2004-10-19T16:21:00.000-07:00

I eat two slices of bread with nothing in between and actually call it a sandwich
I like to stay up all hours of the night and sleep in late (very late)
I like any animal with a flat face, and that is why I own a pug
My favorite beverage is Snapple Iced Tea (not flavored, and definitely not diet)
My favorite food is fettuccini alfredo second favorite is pizza
The only vegetables I eat are potatoes & Broccoli. (unless it's campbell's veg. soup)
I do not drink or smoke under any circumstances
My favorite musicians are Ray LaMontagne, John Mayer, Marc Broussard
I love live music
My favorite season is Spring
I can be argumentative
I have a very VERY short temper
I am Puerto Rican
I was born and raised in Philadelphia.
My favorite colors are beige, blue and olive green
I will not let anyone use my down comforter (believe me they've tried)
I am for the most part low maintenance
I never rely on others, I always do for myself
I once got into a fight with a co-worker on the job.
Despite my temper, I am a very generous person
I cried like a baby during titanic (Beaches, The Notebook, Philadelphia etc.)
When I was 5 years old my sister accidentally dropped a bowl of steaming hot oatmeal on my shoulder, I was out of school for at least 6 months
It breaks my heart to see old people in the street
I love love love, when men wear cologne
I play the piano
My mother entered me in a pageant when I was 10 to dance the lambada; I won $800
I sleep with a light on. Whether it be the tv, computer monitor or night light
I own 36 pairs of jeans (either sergio valente, guess, or sevens)
I own 12 pairs of Nike sneakers
I buy all of my clothing and sneakers online (and yes, they always fit)
I take a spoon full of cheese whiz and slowly lick it off the spoon
I don't like sports
I don't own any skirts
I'm a perfectionist in every aspect of my life except keeping my room clean
I used to weigh 115 lbs about two years ago. I now weight 135. (so sad)
I think the worst job ever has to be working in a call center
A few years back I saw a couple of dead bodies in the morgue of a local hospital (long story)
I'm going to school for nursing
I don't really like soda all that much, I'm more of an iced tea and juice person
Raw fish is my enemy, I will not eat it
I was a straight 'A' student my whole life
I went to catholic school from 6th - 12th grade.
A nun once caught me kissing a guy in one of the corridors and gave me a detention. (on the slip she wrote "Engaged in sexually explicit behavior")
I had an aunt I couldn't get along with, one day I said I hated her . The next day she died, I felt guilty for a very long time
I am afraid of the dark
I played the quija board and it scared the shit out of me. I never touched it again
Other than the oatmeal incident, I have never been hospitalized
Longest relationship 6 years, shortest 1 week
I moved out of my parents house a week after my 18th birthday. My mother didn't talk to me for 2 months after that. She called me when I sent her flowers on Christmas eve
I'm not afraid to speak my mind and say exactly how I feel